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Showing posts with label anger. Show all posts
Showing posts with label anger. Show all posts

Friday, June 2, 2023

Lessons in Anger: The Consequences of Uncontrolled Emotions


In the workplace, I harbored a growing resentment towards my colleague, Anuj, who frequently shirked his responsibilities and burdened me with his unfinished tasks. My frustration continued to mount, reaching its peak when Anuj, instead of delivering money from a customer to the cashier for a receipt, handed it to me. I held onto that money for several days, but when Anuj eventually retrieved it from where I had kept it and handed it to the cashier, he accused me of stealing it. Despite my frantic search in my drawer, the money remained elusive. It turned out that Anuj had taken it and facilitated the issuance of the receipt.

Enraged by this turn of events, I succumbed to my anger and engaged in a heated exchange with Anuj, which tragically escalated into a physical altercation. Throughout this confrontation, a voice in my mind pleaded for calmness, urging me not to succumb to anger. Regrettably, my inability to control my emotions resulted in severe consequences. I was expelled from my position by the senior office staff due to the physical altercation. After dedicating eight years of my life to that office, I suddenly found myself unemployed and adrift.

In the aftermath of losing my job, a profound realization dawned upon me: harboring anger and engaging in confrontations is futile and self-destructive. I recognized the importance of maintaining composure, choosing calmness over quarrels, and treating others with respect and politeness. This experience served as a crucial life lesson that I deeply internalized.

Observing the world around me, I witnessed countless instances where people resorted to violence over trivial disputes. One particular incident struck a chord within me, wherein two individuals pulled an unsuspecting driver out of his car, pummeled him with bricks, and tragically ended his life. It was revealed that the entire altercation had stemmed from a seemingly insignificant argument. This event served as a stark reminder of the biblical verse admonishing against anger.

Through my own personal journey and the observations I made, I discovered the destructive nature of anger and the importance of embracing peace and tranquility in all aspects of life. It taught me to let go of grudges, communicate with empathy, and seek resolution through understanding rather than confrontation. This newfound wisdom instilled in me a profound appreciation for the power of calmness, and the transformative impact it can have on our interactions with others and our own well-being.

Thursday, July 23, 2009

Why Do We Shout in Anger?

A saint asked his disciples, 'Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?' 

 

Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, 'Because we lose our calm, we shout for that.' 'But, why to shout when the other person is just next to you?' asked the saint. 'Isn't it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? 

 

Why do you shout at a person when you're angry?' Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the saint. 

 

Finally he explained, 'When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. 

 

The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other through that great distance.' 

 

Then the saint asked, 'What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, why? Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small...' 

 

The saint continued, 'When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. 

 

Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.' 

 

MORAL: When you argue do not let your hearts get distant, do not say words that distance each other more, else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return, not to shout.

Story on Anger 

Saturday, July 18, 2009

Pause and ponder

Pause and ponder

A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint.

The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into a pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.

Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands.

When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, "Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?"

The father went home and committed suicide.

Think about the story the next time you see someone spill milk at a dinner table or hear a baby crying. Think first before you lose your patience with someone u love.

Trucks can be repaired. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

Pause and ponder. Think before you act. Be patient. Understand and love.