The Unnoticed Pain of a Father: The Wound of a Father

A true father goes through many unspeakable experiences to continue to be a father.

When he goes out daily in search of bread for his household, he sustains many mental injuries he does not discuss with his family.

 

His wife and children may not be able to stand the pains he goes through if he shares it with them.

 

The insults from his boss, the embarrassment from his customers, the harassment from his superiors, etc.Yet he can't quit.

 

Most times,when he gets home, he is welcomed with nags and unending requests. He gets blamed for not being able to meet up, or for not being able to be like his fellow men.

 

Hmmmm! He is rarely appreciated for his struggles and push just to keep the family together.

 

Some men have secretly dipped their hands in so many things they can't discuss with their families. 

 

Some have stolen, embezzled and borrowed so much that they live in inexpressible guilt everyday.

 

A real father can take anything just to keep food on the table for his household.

 

An adage says ''goat sweats but his hair does not let people see his sweat'. Many men are sweating but no one is seeing their sweat because they have a car, a house, a job, etc.

 

When it comes to celebrating him, it is done casually.

 

He may not have breasts to breastfeed, yet everyone sucks from his unseen breasts. 

 

He may not carry pregnancy for nine months, but he's always pregnant with family needs.

 

He may not know how labor pain feels, but his pains are not physical.

 

Tears may not be in his eyes but he bleeds from inside when he has no means to put food on the table for his household.

 

His shouts, hostility,outbursts and moods are not premeditated, they are the fallout of what he goes through. So, understand him.

 

May God continue to strengthen ALL FATHERS

HAPPY FATHERS DAY TO ALL RESPONSIBLE FATHERS.

MOMENT OF REFLECTION

It is a mistake to think time is going. Time is not going. Time is here until the world ends. It is you that is going. You don’t waste time. Time is infinite. You waste yourself. You are finite. It is you that grows old and die. Time doesn’t. So make better use of yourself before you expire. And one of the worst things to do with time is comparing yourself to others. A cow eats grass and gets fat but if dog eats grass, it will die. Never compare yourself with others. Run your race. What works for one person may be that which will kill you. Focus on the gifts and talents God gave you and don’t be envious of the blessings He gave others.

 

Both Lion and Shark are professional hunters, BUT:

A Lion cannot hunt in the Ocean and a Shark cannot hunt in the jungle

That a Lion cannot hunt in the ocean doesn't make him useless and that a Shark cannot hunt in the jungle doesn't also make him useless both have their own territory where they can do well.

If a rose smells better than tomatoes, It doesn't mean the rose can make a better stew. Don't try to compare yourself to others.

 

You also have your own strength, look for it and build on it.

 

All animals that exist, were in Noah's ark. A snail is one of those animals. If God could wait long enough for snails to enter Noah's ark; His door of grace won't close till you reach your expected position in life. Never look down on yourself, keep looking up.

 

Remember that Broken crayons still colour.

Keep on pushing, you never can tell how close you are to your goal...!

FATHER’S LOVE -Father's Day Story

One day little 12 years old girl asked her Father, “What are you going to gift me for my next birthday?” Father smiled and said, “There is much time, so wait till your birthday.”

Just after few days of this conversation, the girl fainted and was rushed to the hospital. After checking on the girl, the doctor came out and informed the family that the girl had a bad heart and probably she will die. Everyone in the family was shocked to hear that and didn’t know what to do.

While the girl was lying on the hospital bed and her father was sitting near her, she asked, “Daddy, am I gonna die?” Father replied, “No dear, you will live”. He gave her a warm hug and kissed her on the forehead and left weeping. The girl said, “How can you be so sure daddy?” The father turned round and said, ”I know.”

After some time the girl got treated and was recovering, at the same time she turned 13. After she came home, she found a letter on her bed.

It says, “My sweet kid, if you are reading this, it means everything went well as I told you. You remember? Once you asked me what I’m gonna gift you for your birthday. Well, at that time I didn’t know what I’m gonna give you but now my present to you is MY HEART.”

FATHER DONATED HIS HEART FOR HER DAUGHTER.

MORAL LESSON: Our Fathers Love us, they make selfless sacrifices to keep us happy and safe. So, always respect and Love your father because you don’t know what they had given up for you.

DON'T JUST LAUGH LEARN THE LESSON.

During lunch at work, I ate 3 plates of beans (which I know I shouldn't). When I got home, my husband seemed excited to see me and exclaimed delightedly, "Darling I have a surprise for dinner tonight." He then blindfolded me and led me to my chair at the dinner table. I took a seat and just as he was about to remove my blindfold, the telephone rang. He made me promise not to touch the blindfold until he returned and went to answer the call. The beans I had consumed were still affecting me and the pressure was becoming unbearable, so while my husband was out of the room I seized the opportunity, shifted my weight to one leg and let one go. 

 

It was not only loud, but it smelled like a fertilizer truck running over a skunk in front of a garbage dump! I took my napkin from my lap and fanned the air around me vigorously. Then, shifting to the other leg, I ripped off three more. The stink was worse than cooked cabbage. Keeping my ears carefully tuned to the conversation in the other room, I went on releasing atomic bombs like this for another few minutes. The pleasure was indescribable! Eventually the telephone farewells signaled the end of my freedom, so I quickly fanned the air a few more times with my napkin, placed it on my lap and folded my hands back on it feeling very relieved and pleased with myself. My face must have been the picture of innocence when my husband returned, apologizing for taking so long. He asked me if I had peaked through the blindfold, and I assured him I had not. 

 

At this point, he removed the blindfold, and twelve dinner guests seated around the table, with their hands to their noses, chorused, "Happy Birthday!"

The Triple-Filter Test

In ancient Greece, Socrates was reputed to hold knowledge in high

esteem. One day an acquaintance met the great philosopher and said,

"Do you know what I just heard about your friend?"

 

"Hold on a minute," Socrates replied. "Before you talk to me about my

friend, it might be good idea to take a moment and filter what you’re

going to say. That’s why I call it the triple filter test. The first filter is

Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell

me is true?"

 

"Well, no," the man said, "actually I just heard about it and…"

 

"All right," said Socrates. "So you don’t really know if it’s true or not.

 

Now, let’s try the second filter, the filter of Goodness. Is what you are

about to tell me about my friend something good?"

 

"Umm, no, on the contrary…"

 

"So," Socrates continued, "you want to tell me something bad about my

friend, but you’re not certain it’s true. You may still pass the test

though, because there’s one filter left—the filter of Usefulness. Is what

you want to tell me about my friend going to be useful to me?"

 

"No, not really."

 

"Well," concluded Socrates, "if what you want to tell me is neither true,

nor good, nor even useful, why tell it to me at all?"

BE DIFFERENT

For research purpose, scientists placed 5 monkeys in a cage, with a ladder in the middle and bananas on the top. Every time a monkey went up the ladder, the scientist soaked the rest of the monkeys with cold water. After a while, whenever a monkey attempted to climb the ladder, others would beat him up. After some time, no monkey dared go up the ladder regardless of the temptation. Scientists then decided to replace one of the monkeys.

As expected, the new monkey instantly fell for the temptation and was beaten up by the rest. After several beatings, this new member learnt not to climb up the ladder even though he never learnt the real reason. Then, a second monkey was brought in and the same thing happened. The first monkey participated in the beating of the second monkey.

The replacements continued, until only a group of 5 monkeys were left in the cage. Even though the new group of monkeys never received a cold shower, they continued to beat up any monkey that attempted to climb the ladder. If you asked any of the new monkeys why the beatings took place, the answer would probably be, “Well, how do I know. I guess that's how things are done around here!" 

 

MORAL

You will never influence the world if you continue doing things the way they have always been done. Be different. Create chaos. Leave an echo behind!

One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that's trying to make you like everyone else.  

GRATITUDE

A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet. He held up a sign which read, “I am blind, please help.”

 

There were only a few coins in the hat – spare change from folks as they hurried past.

 

A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words.

Then he put the sign back in the boy’s hand so that everyone who walked by would see the new words.

 

Soon the hat began to fill up. A lot more people were giving money to the blind boy.

 

That afternoon, the man who had changed the sign returned to see how things were.

 

The boy recognized his footsteps and asked, “Were you the one who changed my sign this morning? What did you write?”

 

The man said, “I only wrote the truth. I said what you said but in a different way.” I wrote, “Today is a beautiful day, but I cannot see it.”

 

Both signs spoke the truth. But the first sign simply said the boy was blind, while the second sign conveyed to everyone walking by how grateful they should be to see…

 

MORALS: When your life seems full of troubles, it seems difficult to maintain an attitude of gratitude, doesn’t it? All we see are our problems, like a blackened storm cloud casting a dark shadow over our lives.

 

And the times when everything just seems to be going smoothly? We often take these precious moments for granted too, don’t we? Caught up in the bliss, comfort, and familiarity of it all, we can simply forget to be thankful.